>> Friday, October 28, 2011

Never Loose Yourself.

In relationships we tend to become one and that is the goal. The goal is to be unified and work in harmony with each other. In so doing, it is important to remember that everything is about balance. One should never, never, for the sake of a healthy relationship, never drop their guard and loose their boundary.

It is dangerous to loose yourself within the other person. When we are in the beginning stages of love we can't help ourselves. But once we take the romance to the next level, there is always that danger of being "sucked in" and loosing your identity.

Who were you before they came along? What is your strengths and weaknesses? What are your long term and short term goals? Are you actively pursuing them? These questions should always be in the forefront of your mind. Especially when you have children. That's a new season and it is best to take your time and nurture your family (which includes your husband). But keep your plans in the forefront of your mind even as a parent.

If you have given up, start fresh, even if you need to tweak your plans due to a change, even if others think it is stupid or it doesn't make money. Have a few goals to hold on to and continue to forge ahead. Do what you enjoy. In hindsight we always see what was better. Use foresight as well. Keep yourself happy by seeing the better you. Stay true to you and don't forget who you are and who you will be. (Write yourself a reminder if you need to : )


The Advisor MA, PC/MHC