Dr. Phil-Quote

>> Thursday, February 17, 2011

"You Teach People How to Treat You". -Dr. Phil


Dr. Peter Fraenkel-New Book Release

>> Sunday, February 13, 2011

If you are in New York, there is going to be a book signing at the renowned Ackerman Institute. My former Couples & Marriage Counseling Professor's new book release is coming March 31, 2011 at 7pm to 9pm. The institute is located at 149 East 78th Street, NY, NY 10075.



By Peter Fraenkel


"Couples today are time starved and out of sync. Peter Fraenkel has devised a powerful set of

tools to help couples take on the challenges of time pressure, overstuffed work schedules, and

contemporary life's frenetic pace, so that partners can reconnect, revitalize, and preserve their


—Evan Imber-Black, author of The Secret Life of Families

“Time has been called the "new currency" in today's world with too much to do and not enough

time to do it. Yet each of us manages these pressures in different ways. In a fascinating new

book, Peter Fraenkel shows us how our approaches to time and the rhythms of our lives spill

over into our couple relationships. Even more importantly, he offers practical suggestions for


--Ellen Galinsky, President, Families and Work Institute, Author of Mind in the Making

"Couples that play together stay together, but only if they play in harmony. With great warmth,

wit and wisdom, Peter Fraenkel shows how to reboot our relationships by re-syncing our

personal metronomes. If you are part of a couple, happy or unhappy, you need to read this book.

It will rock your marriage - in a good way!"

--Carl Honoré, author of In Praise of Slowness and Under Pressure.

“Peter Fraenkel puts forth some of the most pertinent and useful ideas about the time famine that

afflicts couples today. You must take the time, read this timely book and find out how you can

redeem your relationship from the time crunch. Peter Fraenkel is an inspiring writer and an

inspired therapist. You are sure to enjoy your time with him.”

—Esther Perel, Author of Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Domestic and the Erotic.

“All couples struggle with the rhythms of family, business and personal priorities. So your

relationship had better be in sync. Peter Frankel sheds unique light on the key challenges

couples face, and addresses them in a way that is extremely consumable, and most importantly,


—Gregory T. Rogers, founder and president RayLign Advisory

“A very timely book on a topic that all couples deal with. … Peter Fraenkel helps us understand

that our internal pace and couple rhythm are hidden under virtually all issues, and he uncovers

the mystery of time in ways that will amaze and engage all readers.”

—Howard Markman, Co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies and author

of Fighting for Your Marriage

*I will be purchasing the book and of course a blog review on the material. It would be nice if we could have a blog book club for Dr. Fraenkel's book. You will get so much more out of it if you read it yourself. He is pretty good and very humorous. I will also re-post my notes from his amazing workshop in 2009.


Food, Fun, Games & Ms. Secrets

>> Friday, February 04, 2011

I am exhausted and elated at the same time. Everyone showed up to the Women's Night except one person and that is because she delivered her baby boy two weeks ago. The table was filled with all sorts of food and goodies as well as punch and wine. (For a great punch I learned to just use powdered punch and no water, just add Sprite or 7up). -SAVE DRAFT

FEBRUARY 8, 2011-I had to continue this post today, as Friday night and the weekend totally drained me. Now to continue with the follow up from GNO....We played the "Who am I?" game which was a hit. A woman's name such as Halle Berry, Princess Diana, Lucille Ball, Oprah Winfrey, Hilary Clinton, etc. was taped to the back of each person who entered. You could only ask two questions where the person could only answer yes or no. For example, "Am I still alive?" Then move on until you figure out who you are. (You cannot ask the same person consecutively).

Everyone ate when they wanted. After mingling for an hour, we sat down and I went around the room and spoke about the strengths of each person. There were comments, laughter and somehow we started discussing the school bus, soy products, teas and something that happened to our newest member, which were all very interesting believe it or not. Then I spoke about being a mother and the thing I would like to change about my parenting which is to be more patient in conversation with my older son and I spoke about being a wife and what it means to "keep the hunter hunting". With that I pulled out a Vicky bag and gave each person a wrapped gift of trendy undies from Ms. Secrets.

They all began screaming and opened their gifts, as there were a variety of colors and patterns. Turns out others started sharing on my topic and it turned into a great and simple discussion. We ended on time and everyone went back to small groups trickling home when someone mentioned maybe we should do a book club next time, once a month but we will have to find a good book to all read together. "Great idea" was pretty much our last words. Everyone said what a great time they had. We started at 7:30 sharp and we were finished at 9:00. Everyone was gone at 10:30 and I turned up the volume to the music, dancing free throughout the house. The boys will be back at 11:30 and I had an hour to myself.

Sorry I was so detailed but I did not want you to miss a thing. You know how women can be. "Tell me every detail". Also I wanted to give you ideas of what to do and not do, if you decided to host your own Girls Night Out. I really enjoyed myself and on Monday morning we took our children to the bus stop as usual and everyone was all smiles and friendly. This was my favorite part of GNO; friendships were built, we were refreshed, the children benefited and the husbands were highly encouraged, I'm sure.