Live Ever After: 2013

A Different New Year's Resolution

>> Monday, December 30, 2013

It's that time again to look at the past year with all of its plus and minuses. There are things you wish you could change and things you accept and move on, to change for the future. Have you ever realized something about yourself, vaguely had an internal glimpse or heard someone mention your shortcomings. You may have quickly brushed it over or after so many years it was just not in your spectrum of consciousness. Then one day, that short coming comes into sharp focus as a result of an event.

I will now admit, mine is anxiety. I have diagnosed myself as having anxious feelings that can sometimes get the best of me. It makes me impulsive, cut people off in mid conversation; while they are speaking and I am ashamed to say I have had the nerve to finished others sentences. My family understand my enthusiasm, but of course not everyone is as sympathetic as family and close friends. So my New Years resolution this year is an emotional discipline rather than the typical need for physical transformations. I will be working on peace, patience and inner silence, which is difficult for an extravert.

I will be reading a lot on the subject matter to help me make the change and having good conversations. Today, I found this quote that floored me and will be using it throughout the year to help me:

"Almost nothing need be said when you have eyes." by Tarjei Vesaas

This year instead of making a change for a New Year's resolution that changes the physical, join me in a New Years resolution for character building. Emotions tend to be overlooked. When this year someone says, "There is something different about you, new hair style.... did you loose weight..... your skin is so clear...." You will know it is as a result of your inner beauty and glow of character.

Happy 4th Anniversary Live Ever After!

>> Friday, November 29, 2013

Happy 4th Anniversary Live Ever After!

Well it is time of our annual Artist Tribute. Thank you for visiting Live Ever After's 4th Anniversary Blog Party. We tried to have a little variety for everyone who visits. Please feel free to scroll to the bottom of page and click "older posts" to watch the earlier part of the party. This was a lot of fun as usual. See you next year for the 5th anniversary of LEA.

Now for LEA's Artist of 2013. It was a tie between three people but this artist won as she makes positive music sound so amazing. Plus no one does it up like her. Here she is......................

The Red Ribbon

Three years ago, I had the wonderful opportunity of being a keynote speaker at graduation for my former High School. My address to the students was based on the fact that when they leave they will be judged by the school they attend, clothing they wear and even by their names and birthplace.

Recently, I had to use the main point of that speech. I spoke about being free and freeing themselves from all labels others may place on you. To go and acheive any goal they set out to do. I gave an example of a story I had heard about training elephants. The people use a conditioning system for chaining the ankle of the elephant. After some time the add a red ribbon tied around the same chained ankle. Then again, after some time the chain is removed only leaving the red ribbon.

As you can guess, the elephant will not leave or run away as he sees the red ribbon, he thinks he is still chained. For many of us we may be called names and labeled, making us unable to set or achieve our goals. Cut the red ribbons in your life. You are free to do as you choose and conquer your dreams. Do not let anyone label you and worst of all do not label yourself.

Best,
The Advisor, MA, QMHP

Dubstep Music: "Cinema" and "Flight"
The middle rocks.

Our blog party is almost over but I have to include this video from last year. It made so many hits since then on You Tube. It inspired me to do a few more videos for Dubstepging. My sons love the music and have contributed two songs for your enjoyment. For now, watch this dancer to the very end. There is no one like him.

He's back. One of the greatest rappers and truly skilled in his verse writing and rapid word flow:
It's Eminem.

Love this Video....
Macklemore "Can't Hold Us"

Words of Wisdom from Will Smith

To see the beginning of the party you can scroll to the bottom of the page and click older posts. We have a few more videos before the big reveal for Tribute Artist. Be back in a few minutes.

Justin Timberlake- Mirrors

The party continues Here's Selina and Rihanna

This beat is amazing and below, "People are Awesome".

Have you heard of this book "Hidden Message in Water"? It has been traveling around the globe from a friend telling another friend. It is very interesting read as it speaks about the power of words on water as we are made up of about 60-70% water. It makes you think about the use of your words and the company you keep. A researcher named Masaru Emoto wrote the book. Now it is on video. This is a three minute clip of the book which will explain better.

For all the Spiritual

We are on a commercial break. I know a great married couple in New York who I miss dearly. Here is a video created by their son for a Doritos commercial. He is one of the semi-finalists. There are only 4 days left. You can vote using the star panel below the video. Thanks for voting!

Doritos Commercial
(Click link above)

Feel free to poke around. To navigate site and see older posts, scroll down to bottom of page and click on older posts. To go further back use side bar for dates. Also feel free to join the site if you like. Be back soon....

Thanks for coming to our party. There's more to come. Taking a break. Until then check out this video.

I Absolutely LOVE when this happens....

Here's Kelly Clarkson

I love these guys. Discovered them at the beginning of the year. Here is classically trained "Black Violin". I jam to them in my car : )

What Drives You?

As a therapist I have a continued fascination with what motivates people, cultures, relationships and individuals. What drives your internal pressure? Is it motivation from a thought, a regret, or how you grew up? What are you still searching for that you may have already, but letting slip by? What motivates you and how do you motivate others? What is your truth and how do you handle it or celebrate it? Are you naturally driven? Does fear drive you? Does happiness drive you? What have you not started or completed due to minimal passion? What decisions will you make for 2014 as a result of your determination?

Best,
The Advisor, MA QMHP

On my way to breakfast.....
Here's Applause

Welcome to the blog party. You came at a good time. Check out this cool video I found on AWE....

Here's the latest song from Maroon 5

Happy Anniversary Live Ever After!!!

Welcome to the 4th Anniversary for Live Ever After. Although this is a relationship blog anyone can get a little encouragement and self inspiration. We will play videos, music and insightful posts for your entertainment, throughout the day. Tonight, before midnight, we will reveal our Tribute Artist of the year, as we do every year. You are welcome to poke around. Let's start with Taylor and Ed.

Upcoming Blog Party.

>> Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Well it is that time again this year. Live Ever After (LEA) has an annual blog party for it's anniversary in the month of October, for the past three years. We are a little late this year but it will be just as exciting as the years before. This blog was created in 2009 and on each anniversary we have a finale tribute of an artist. Who will this years winner be? You can peek and see past parties by using side bar for dates in October.

Stay tuned for LEA's blog party on Friday, November 29, 2013, from 9am to 12 midnight.

"Throw your heart over..."

>> Thursday, August 15, 2013

DRAFT WRITTEN IN JANUARY 2013.

In tradition, bringing in this new year meant a lot of changes had to be made rather than having the option of changing. Last years January post was about new beginnings and opportunity. The January before that was a sad time and desperation for change. January 2, 2013, I walked into a car dealership and practically demanded the car I wanted. That was a hard thing to do as fear was stopping me for months. That same day I followed through with my next task on my agenda which was to apply for my doctorate which never seems to have "the right timing".

These were my impossibles. Which leads me to the main focus of this post. They were impossible because I set them as impossible. I had to grow to grab fear by the neck and push through with faith. Around this time I had to leave my job in order to get the credentials I need, start a new job and become financially vulnerable. A friend from church sent me an email of a video on positive thinking. The illustration used was of a trapeze artist who was coaching a young member of his team. The young man became afraid and the coach gave him the best advise I ever heard. "It will be okay. Throw your heart over and your body will follow".

It's my 14 year anniversary and already it has started on the wrong foot, note, page....The question is how to translate your successes in each area of your life. The hardest thing in a relationship is to keep the same strategy or pattern as relationships continues to change.Your spouse is really "not the person you first married" and neither are you.

TO BE CONTINUED....

Transformations

>> Wednesday, August 14, 2013

I am back. Lots of changes have happened. I took an eight month hiatus into the real world and away from online blogging which can substitute for real life. This three year blog was a saving grace for the stress and anxiety of moving here and not being able to find a job. "At the time blogging was the empowerment that was needed as a venue for focusing on ones talent verses the seemingly invisible walls cropping up with each progression that one makes." So what did I do with all the time I had as an educated wife and mother? Turn lemons into.... my own non-profit for scholarships given to minorities.

So what did I do on my 8 month vacation? I worked on myself. Before I gave to my family, my relatives, my dear friends, my job, my foundation, and my blogs. I took time to do things I enjoyed without feeling guilty or worrying, or at least I fought the feelings. Here I was giving the same advice to others out of concern for them and realized I should be just as concerned for myself. I took much better care of myself and did the things I once enjoyed. I took chances and made the most of many opportunities; I even started new hobbies I was surprised I would enjoy.

I am really not the same person I was eight months ago. It is to the point where I
feel much healthier and feel almost..... transformed. I learned what we all know to be true but I was able to change my relationships and family dynamics for the better, just from taking care of myself. It does not stop there. In hindsight I was always being transformed. Even when I was not working and with each "good" and "bad" event that happened to me, it forced me to grow. We are always growing. It does not take an event. It is minute intervals, day by day and choice by choice. Growth is not just physical but emotional as well. We are transformational beings with a desire towards doing good and making good.

Fill in the blank for yourself: When given a lemon I (made)_____________.

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