Arguing in front of the kids.

Well we had a disagreement again last night. I was so eager to resolve the issue; I could not wait until we got home. We don't curse or scream. We have learned after all these years to be civil, at least in the way we argue. We were in the car, and after a while, my oldest son stated, "Could you guys talk about this later. I don't want to hear it."

[I think children should see a little disagreement between parents and parents being affectionate to one another as well. Children need to see three things: Parents make mistakes, Parents say sorry and Parents express love.] 

When we came home, I realized my son had a good idea. The waiting in the car, to get home and state my case gave me time to think and cool down. I ended up seeing how I could have done things better, regarding the presenting issue. I decided that my children need to see both good and bad sides of us. We have our ritual for bedtime, and it was at this time I addressed everyone and apologized for getting angry and being mean to their father. I apologized to their father in front of them.

He accepted and I was just happy that I did my part. Then my oldest said "It's okay mommy. We are all different. You argue and that's okay you have seen yourself and each one of us is different and it's alright to be different, right?" What else could I say but "right". My youngest is tender hearted and started hugging me and crying saying, “I love you mommy. That was a big girl thing to do. What else could I say to that except "Thank you"

So I realize sometimes we need to make up as a family. Good lesson for me. I thought I would share with you as it was a valuable lesson.