Arguing in front of the kids.

Well we had a disagreement again last night. I was so eager to resolve the issue; I could not wait until we got home. We don't curse or scream. We have learned after all these years to be civil, at least in the way we argue. We were in the car, and after a while, my oldest son stated, "Could you guys talk about this later. I don't want to hear it."

[I think children should see a little disagreement between parents and parents being affectionate to one another as well. Children need to see three things: Parents make mistakes, Parents say sorry and Parents express love.] 

When we came home, I realized my son had a good idea. The waiting in the car, to get home and state my case gave me time to think and cool down. I ended up seeing how I could have done things better, regarding the presenting issue. I decided that my children need to see both good and bad sides of us. We have our ritual for bedtime, and it was at this time I addressed everyone and apologized for getting angry and being mean to their father. I apologized to their father in front of them.

He accepted and I was just happy that I did my part. Then my oldest said "It's okay mommy. We are all different. You argue and that's okay you have seen yourself and each one of us is different and it's alright to be different, right?" What else could I say but "right". My youngest is tender hearted and started hugging me and crying saying, “I love you mommy. That was a big girl thing to do. What else could I say to that except "Thank you"

So I realize sometimes we need to make up as a family. Good lesson for me. I thought I would share with you as it was a valuable lesson.  

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Womanhood to the Nth Degree

We do not give ourselves as much credit as we deserve. The more I speak to women at work, within my family, within my neighborhood and the larger community, the more pride I take in being a part of something very special. Although I am enjoying being a part of the female species, there is that love/hate relationship with the "once a month event". I have a joke that when I die I will have a good talk with Eve, who apparently caused us to have this phenomenon, but I suspect she will say, "Like you haven't done the same thing I did". Okay, I digress.

My point is women are amazing. Terminally ill and they are still running whole households and communities, having children while being a member on the board of directors, getting married while successfully running their own business. A student with time to build websites and advocacy campaigns. You may say, well that's not me. Think through your life and the multitasking you have done. Remember boredom and complacency was the fuel to ignite your engine.

Even when we enjoy just a little peace and quiet to get away from husbands, work, children & grandchildren (yes, I said it), how long does it really last before you get an itch to use your talent, resources or passion? We have a wonderful advantage in being emotionally flexible and resilient. Don't get us mad, we create a plan. Don't worry if your down right now, you will find a way to become victorious. Test: do you look back at a past event and think, "How did I get out of that one?". It's who we are by nature. If you believe in a  Divine being, well he still sharpened you to have the tools for being successful. But again, I digress.

There is a wide spectrum for defining the word feminine. We have evolved from days of old when we were known to have bad attitudes with each other and even despising how we are individually made. There is so much to embrace about yourself and to become inspired by each other. We are the Matriarchs of this generation. Once you figure out your niche, and it doesn't matter how long it takes, maturity will refine you. Wisdom will bring you to a place of confidence.

Most women do not want to get old but I find aging as this wonderful process. There is a beauty that is indescribable. Although aging can be limiting, I admire women who still make effort to give back to younger adults, speak at important events, write a book, set out to experience the world, and being open to love. Being a woman is  such a wonderful role in life. Womanhood really is an honor to the Nth Degree.  

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Raising an Olympian

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Things They Say.

Youngest Son
I was speaking to my husband and I mentioned that on Thursday I have supervision at work. My youngest said, "Mommy you are going to get Super ("ving", as he open's his eyes really wide) Vision from work?" We laughed as that is really what it's like.

Oldest Son
I was putting my children to bed and speaking to them about their day when my oldest said, "I can't sleep." Then he broke out into: "When you can't sleep, you tell your parents. When you tell your parents they say, "go to bed". When they say go to bed, they tranquilize you and when they tranquilize you, you wake up late, and the world has been taken over by zombies. Don't let the world be taken over by zombies.
(Okay, I know, he has been looking at too many commercials).

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