The 5 Love Langauges

>> Monday, July 16, 2012

I was lucky enough to be married around the same time as a group of friends and neighbors. We discovered this book that became part of our own book club. I have since recommended, counseled and given my copy away--on a few occasions. The 5 Love Languages is an insightful and interesting read.

The book has simple spiritual tones to it yet it delivers on bonding relationships through the study of each other (my personal mantra). We all have a language of love. The five principles gives you the opportunity to identify which language (s) is your love language and which language is "spoken" by your spouse.

The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Too many times we assume our love language is the same as our spouse and we wonder why we are not making progress. For example, you may have the Words of Affirmation as your primary language, yet your spouse has expressed or hinted that they like thoughtful gestures such as breakfast in bed or organizing a common area of the home which they enjoy. Most likely, their love language would be Acts of Service.

The more you know about your primary and even secondary language, as well as theirs, the better the chances of improving you marital  bond. Note: The other spouse does not have to read the book for the principles to be effective. You can summarize to your spouse what you are learning and get their input. This may help them to participate and become engaged in conversation.  

To learn more go to The 5 Love Languages.