Unconditional Love-My Boys

>> Sunday, September 26, 2010

These are my cool boys who wanted to be like daddy and wear his shades. It's so funny to not see them smiling and trying to take on a serious face. We had so much fun today and took pictures while in the car.

My boys are now five and seven and I was thinking how much I love them and have big dreams for them even when they are goofing off at the wrong time, making loud burps they insist they couldn't hold, fight for first place to the car, bathroom, etc. I just can't get enough of them. Once the oldest said mommy you should become a doctor. Any kind of doctor because you always know what to do and say. (If he only knew). He ignored my excuses. Then he said "just do it mom, you can do it." while pointing his index finger at me. This is the same one who at three years old confided in me like an adult. "Mommy there is a black thing that keeps following me. He won't leave me alone and he only comes out in the sun. It took me some time to figure out what he was talking about, until I realized he was speaking about his shadow. lol.

My youngest is the cuddly romantic. "Mommy are those new shoes? I like them. Mommy did you do your hair? You are so beautiful." He is sooooo good for my self esteem. He is also a true peacemaker. Although he is the youngest, he watches his brother carry on about a toy and how it is unfair, on and on he goes while my youngest at two years of age, would look at him and wait until the right time during the oldest's tantrum, then slowly hand him the toy without even a blink or a tear. Honestly, that would be one of the hardest things for me to do. I would always be so proud of him. Whatever happened? His peacemaking strategy worked after a few trails.

I had so many memories and thoughts today as I watch them interact and took a moment to just absorb them. You know, we think we aren't experts as parents but we are kind of experts of the age they were. And for a whole year you were an expert for that specific age now you're going to be an expert for this new one. I figure, as once you have had a years worth of training for anything you must know a great deal about it. If you have a second child and a third, you get to do some good tweaking of your skills. Now of course you are an expert at that age for your child but can give possible practicals to other parents. My thoughts also led me along this path: I love this current stage that they are in. So inquisitive and your discovering what they are good at and what they don't like. They can be like little lawyers or diplomats on justice and fairness yet become world problem solvers and musicians. The next moment they are kissing on your arm nonstop and speaking about types of bowel movements in public. You just got to love them.

Do you ever think, what did I talk about before my children came along? What did I eat or wear before they came along? Did I even have an identity without them? It seems so long ago. The oldest has a new favorite saying; "Waaait for it". (Totally opposite from the last one, "run like the wind!"). The youngest knows all the words of the commercials on TV. Progressive Auto Insurance, infomercials, and the favorite Swiffer commercial, "Whose that lady?" My mom was able to get them to say "Lovely Lady". Already I love the oldest's fashion sense and being a perfect gentleman, with the youngest wanting to help me cook and drive me around when he gets older. Yep, just when you think life doesn't get better than this. Then they are teenagers and this will most likely all go out the window. I'll have to wait for the hormone storms to pass and hopefully make good on their promises in their twenties. Okay, who am I fooling? They will have girlfriends and careers. Then eventually get married and have their own children, forgeting all about the great things they will do for mommy when they grow up. It will hurt, but does it matter? I will love them anyway.


Unconditional Love-Young Unconditional Love, ft. JoJo

>> Monday, September 20, 2010

Do you remember these days when you were so in love as a young woman or man? Do you remember being fickle? This was the person you were destined to marry, soul mates,the universe turned at one glance of them, your world was shaken at the thought of them with someone else. A simple "Hello" from them meant they were in love with you. "See you later" was a pre-req for a date. You continually fussed and stressed over them. Thank God for your support of girl or guy friends. Even with them you were cautious, not say everything or too many positive things as they may want your heart throb or sweetheart for themselves.

Then in the next grade, if you get that far, "Hey why didn't I see this person before." "They are in my science class? No way." "This is the one, baby all I want is you." "What was I thinking before?" "Look how cute they are?" "This is the person for me, for sure, this time." They do no wrong. You don't care if they have money. You're so super trusting and melt at just a touch of them. "We will have a family and live in a mansion." "Wait. Whose that at the other side of the gym." "OMG......."

In 90% of the cases, you never marry who you think you are going to marry. Now you are with the person you are with and probably think I can't believe the person for me is you and in some cases who would have thought we would even have children, in our own version of a mansion
: ) JoJo sums it up for us.


Unconditional Love-Adoptive Family

>> Saturday, September 11, 2010

The new century family does not necessarily share the same bloodline or the same customs and traditions. They are boundless and colorless. They are motivational and transcending. I found this family online one day while blog hopping. They are an adorable family of nine children! You can read more about Todd and Amy's lives on their blog site called Building the Blocks. Their story is so inspiring to love unconditionally. How enriched are the lives of these children as they have such a wonderful opportunity to grow up in a loving family. That the children have a role model in their parents for a deeper meaning of life; one set by example. And what is more, they are strong advocates for adoption.

Their motto on adoption is a powerful one linked to the family picture: "Sometimes I would like to ask God why he allows poverty, famine and injustice in the world, when he could do something about it...but I am afraid he might ask me the same question" -Anonymous. If you are able to adopt, have the desire to love, always wanted to help the less fortunate, then enrich your life today. Start your research on being an adoptive parent. Thank you Todd and Amy and so many others who love unconditionally in this way.


Unconditional Love-Mother's Love Brings Life to Newborn

>> Sunday, September 05, 2010

This is the story of a mother's love. A newborn who was pronounced dead and two hours later he literally, came to life! This mother held her son's body and spoke gently to him, believing he was dead. The one to two minutes given to all parents to say their goodbyes turned into a little over two hours, with both the mother, father and his twin sister. You can see the video here. (If you are unable to see the video, you can also read the account).

It reminds me of Attachment Theory by John Bowlby. He theorized how important the touch of the caregiver and the positive effects of nursing while holding an infant, as the soothing of the mothers heart beat while being held promotes security and safety. This theory gave birth to a whole new movement in Attachment Theory, with research done by Mary Ainsworth. Mental Health Professionals continue to implement this theory as every nursery within hospitals swaddle newborns and there is a host of work being done in attachment as it relates to adults. Lack of touch as an infant has shown to be damaging on the child psyche and I have heard no touch can even lead to death.

As for this story, it is the complete opposite. This mother's physical warmth, her soothing words, his ears on her heart, all remedies for life. First he made movement then his eyes opened. Simply amazing. There is definitely a future in the psychological sciences for this type of accidental experience.

I still cannot believe it. This mother is also amazing to have almost lovingly "coached" the baby to life even when she was saying her goodbyes. I'm speechless.